India Post News Service

ARTESIA, CA: As part of its efforts to educate the South Asian Community, the South Asian Helpline and Referral Agency (SAHARA) conducted the first of many seminars slated for the year with one on Youth Dating Violence Prevention at the Days Inn here on April 19.Present at the event were David Zietz and Valerie Butler from the Child Protective Services Public Agency who encouraged the youngsters and parents to 'open up' and discuss dating issues. Nirupama Sejmal Parmar of SA moderated the proceedings

The speakers had ample advice and information on the dangers behind the dating scene. David Zietz reiterated the importance of a firm line of communication between children and parents. He conceded lack of communication is a problem not confined to South Asians but in all ethnic groups here in this country.

However it is a little more complicated for the south Asians because of the cultural traditions and life styles in their countries of origin.He warned girls against dating boys who show any trace of violence as if it happens once, it will happen again.

The duo drove home the point that the key to dating is personal safety. They recommended that both girls and boys make absolutely sure they leave a trail of where they can be located with someone, or where it can be found, so that in case of an extreme situation those searching for them would know where to look.

A good suggestion was to leave messages on their own voice mails. Teenagers should also avoid places which are isolated, dark and lonely and these places are generally also hideouts of weirdoes, whackos and all kind of low life like drug addicts etc. Valerie Butler addressed the delicate subject of sexual behavior. It may well have been the first time it was discussed with a mixed audience of children and adults both males and females.

Butler gave important information and tips on issues like unprotected sex, sexually transmitted diseases, drugs, domestic abuse and the several misconceptions on intimacy making the circuit. The consequences of risky sexual behavior she reiterated could be pregnancy, disease and even death.There are thousands of examples of boys falling victim to scheming, cunning and conspiring psycho-bitches that could land them in prison or in other serious situations. Her advice to the boys was to check her ID before hitting the sack with her.

In most cases the typical psycho-bitch lures her victim to his doom by her outward charm and seductive mannerism. Most of these girls use heavy make up and often tend to look older than what they are. They will agree to unprotected sex saying that she's using contraceptive pills. And then at some point in the relationship she will show up at his door saying she's pregnant and lay out her terms and threaten to go to the police should he disagree. It is at this juncture the guy realizes she is a minor and he is caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. Unfortunately the laws here (and in most countries) are totally tilted towards women.

There are many examples of victimized men doing long prison terms after having been falsely accused of rape. All that it takes for the girl / woman is to shed a few crocodile tears and paint a sorry picture and the man is toast. He has no way of proving his innocence. He is guilty because she says so and his DNA found on her says so.

The DNA that is there on her as a result of consensual sex they had the night before. Anand Jon is a prime example of this victimization. Incredibly in his case there is no DNA or any sound evidence to throw him in the slammer. He is in this situation solely because these girls decided to accuse him months and in some cases years after the alleged rape took place. It's their word against his.So boys the bottom line is precaution.